<p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">先简单介绍一下作者</span><span style="font-size:16px">Louise Bates Ames</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">。从上世纪</span><span style="font-size:16px">70</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">年代起,就是著名的儿童行为发展专家,而且是本行业的“翘楚”(这两个字,是中文书上的原文),兼行医,兼做报纸专栏作家。对了,她还是著名“葛赛尔人类发展研究中心”的创办人之一。一生著作等身。这本书是她</span><span style="font-size:16px">1992</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">年的作品。台湾版中文书名是:《养育出众孩子的方法》(原文:</span><span style="font-size:16px">Raising Good Kids</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">,很朴素的名字,“养育好的孩子”</span> <span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">)。中文版的书名叫《你的</span><span style="font-size:16px">N</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family: 宋体">岁孩子》,从</span><span style="font-size:16px">0</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁到</span><span style="font-size:16px">14</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁,前面的每一岁一本;然后是</span><span style="font-size:16px">10-14</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family: 宋体">岁的合定本。作者是</span><span style="font-size:16px">Luise Bates Ames</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">。台湾信谊出版社。</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><strong><span style="font-size:16px;font-family: 宋体">内容:</span></strong></p><p style="line-height:29px"><strong><span style="font-size:16px">&nbsp;</span></strong></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">1</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁半:爱唱反调</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">2</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁:开始关心他人</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">2</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁半:让人一个头两个大的第一叛逆期</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">3</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁:喜欢与人分享</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">3</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁半:缺乏安全感</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">4</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁:爱吹牛</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">4</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁半:分不清真实与幻想</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">5</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁:可爱的黄金年华</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">5</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁半到</span><span style="font-size:16px">6</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁:极端自我中心</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">6</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁:好动、粗野、叛逆</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">7</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁:喜欢独处的年龄</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">8</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁:具有评价事务的能力</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">9</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁:追求完美</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">10</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁:青春期前奇妙的缓冲期</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">11</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁:寻找自我的开始</span></p><p style="line-height:29px"><span style="font-size:16px">12</span><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁:发现自我的开始</span></p><p style="line-height:29px">&nbsp;</p><p style="line-height:29px">&nbsp;</p><p style="text-align:center;line-height:29px"><strong><span style="font-size:16px">2</span></strong><strong><span style="font-size:16px;font-family:宋体">岁娃的特点</span></strong></p><p style="line-height:29px">&nbsp;</p><p><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;">2</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">岁前后的小坏蛋有多坏,我们都已经知道了。最突出的表现包括:</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;"><br/> <br/> “</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">不</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;">”</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">字当头</span><span style="font-size: 14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;"><br/> </span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">打滚撒赖</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;"><br/> </span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">一意孤行</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;"><br/> </span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">占有欲强</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;"><br/> </span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">自私霸道</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;"><br/> <br/> </span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">其实,孩子的这些行为都只是因为,孩子开始有了自我的意识、意愿、意图。但他们不懂得表达,甚至他们自己也不甚明白他们自己的意图。他们一点儿也不坏,一点儿也没有折磨妈妈、蛮不讲理的意思。</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;"><br/> <br/> </span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">对待这么小的小宝宝,书上提供的管教技巧主要以疏导、绕道为主。</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;"><br/> <br/> </span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">安全第一:不要告诉孩子不许玩不许碰。你自己把该锁起来的锁起来,该扣好盖子的扣好盖子。</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;"><br/> <br/> </span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">生活</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">规律:饿了、渴了、累了、困了、闷了,孩子就容易发脾气。你应该摸索孩子的生活规律,在孩子陷入可能导致坏情绪的陷阱之前,采取恰当措施,比如让孩子</span> <span style="font-size:14px;font-family: 宋体">吃饱、睡觉、带到其他地方玩等。</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;"><br/> <br/> </span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">转移注意:这么小的宝宝,注意力移动得很快,你要好好利用。比如,你抱孩子进餐椅吃饭,孩子打挺不肯进去,你就不必坚持。拿些小胡萝卜丁啦小麦圈啦什么的哄哄他,等他吃得高兴心情愉快时,再抱进餐椅里去。</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;"><br/> <br/> </span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">不当观众:当孩子打滚撒赖时,不当观众。没有观众了,这演员也就没趣了。</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;"><br/> <br/> </span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">绕开硬碰硬:如果你问,</span><span style="font-size: 14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;">“</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family: 宋体">你要不要洗澡?</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;">” </span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">这答案肯定是</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;">“</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">不!</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;">” </span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:宋体">你可以换个说法,</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;">“</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family: 宋体">你想在澡盆里玩小鸭子,还是玩小水桶?</span><span style="font-size:14px;font-family:&#39;Times New Roman&#39;,&#39;serif&#39;">”<br/> <br/> <br/> </span></p><p><br/></p>